Every Rom Com 17: Before Midnight

This week on Every Rom Com, Jen, Sophia, and Zoë finish the travel series and the “Before” trilogy with the 2013 Richard Linklater film “Before Midnight.” We’ll talk about the complexities of long-term love and how relationships change with time, children, and compromise. We’ll cover healthy communication styles and what’s off-limits (or not) in a fight. And somewhere in the middle of the podcast we figure out the secrets to both love and life (don’t miss it!) Since it’s the travel series, we also cover the film’s beautiful locations in the Southern Peloponnese of Greece and give you some ideas for a future vacation! To top it all off, Jen does an off-the-cuff proposal for the plot of a future trilogy with Jesse and Celine. Don’t miss this deep dive into life and love in all its complexity! WARNING: There is no spoiler-free section in this episode, so we recommend seeing the movie first! 

0:00-6:33 Introduction, Where would you like to travel once the pandemic is managed?

6:33-17:47 Trailer, Basic Info, General Opinion 

Julie Delpy Asked for Equal Pay: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2019/oct/03/julie-delpy-equal-pay-before-midnight 

17:47-25:36 Cast & Crew In-Depth

For information on Richard Linklater, listen to our “Before Sunrise” episode. For information on Julie Delpy & Ethan Hawke, listen to our “Before Sunset” episode. 

25:36-29:59 The Airport Scene

29:59-1:01:20 The Car Scene, Finding Time for Each Other as Parents, “There’s Always a Catch”, Parental Anxiety, Compromise in Relationships, Communication Styles and Problems

More on Non-Violent Communication: https://www.cnvc.org/online-learning/nvc-instruction-guide/nvc-instruction-guide 

The book, which explains it all much better: https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships/dp/189200528X/ref=sr_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=non+violent+communication+rosenberg&qid=1626900982&s=books&sr=1-3 

More on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy: 

What is it?: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/about/pac-20384610 

A recommended book, Mind Over Mood: https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Mood-Second-Changing/dp/1462520421 

A recommended app, Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ 

1:01:20-1:10:52 At the House, Location: The Leigh Fermor House, Jesse & Celine Interact with Other Adults

More on the Leigh Fermor House:  https://www.benaki.org/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=3274&Itemid=846&lang=en 

https://adventure.com/patrick-leigh-fermor-mani-peninsula-greece/

Perpetual Deja-Vu: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-30927102  

1:10:52-1:40:02 The Dinner Party, Celine Bursts the Romantic Bubble, Technology and Relationships & Sexuality, Differences Between Men & Women, Different Views of Love, Natalia’s Speech 

1:40:02-1:50:06 Walk to the Hotel, Insecurity & Aging, Location: Chapel, Jesse & Celine’s Chemistry, Watching the Sunset

Chapel information: https://www.johnsanidopoulos.com/2013/06/the-byzantine-chapel-featured-in-before.html 

1:50:56-2:21:18 The Hotel Scene, Hotel Location, The Trilogy’s First Sex Scene, Love Changing Over Time, The Fight Scene, Fighting Styles, Pressures on Women, Infidelity

Location: The Westin Resort Costa Navarino:  https://www.marriott.com/hotels/travel/klxwi-the-westin-resort-costa-navarino/?SWAQ=958C 

2:21:18-2:35:21 Final Scene, Travel Recommendations, If There Were Another Sequel/Series What Would You Imagine it Being About?, Criterion Edition of Trilogy

Epidaurus Festival: http://aefestival.gr/?lang=en

Other Travel Recommendations: https://www.ricksteves.com/watch-read-listen/read/articles/the-peloponnese-greeces-unspoiled-escape 

https://www.windstarcruises.com/blog/monemvasia-the-hidden-gem-of-greece/ 

More on Locations: https://happytowander.com/before-midnight-filming-locations-in-greece-a-full-list/  

2:35:21-2:41:25 Double Feature Recommendations, Is This Movie a Romance?